Monday, November 2, 2009

For the Critics

The following is opinionated and somewhat harsh.

Maybe I should just be quiet as this too shall pass but I really feel the need to comment. To all the critics out there and you know who you are. I've read your comments and normally I wouldn't pay any attention but my heart aches for the future of adoption, Ethiopian, domestic, and other international. Your uneducated musings about why Americans adopt are ridiculous and dangerous. You have no idea why one individual family chooses to adopt and thus, you shouldn't speculate. I don't really care what you say about me amongst yourselves. I'm sure you are saying it just to make yourselves feel better or probably you have nothing better to talk about. Adopting Rowan was a calling from God. It was God who pointed us to Ethiopia. It was He who chose this tiny, malnourished, sick child and entrusted us to care for him. Rowan is my son, MY SON! and I will rise up as fierce as a mother grizzly bear to defend him if I have to. It is our right to call him what we want, not yours, not the kebele's, not the orphanage staff. He was abandoned. His biological parents did not name him. We did! We who love him, adore him, care for him, feed him, change him, read to him, snuggle with him, hug him, kiss him, comfort him, teach him. We are his family, not you. We're not perfect. We know that. We're not black. We're not Ethiopian. We don't speak Amharic. I can make injera and dora wat but you probably wouldn't eat it. We're doing the best we can with what God gave us. He will provide what we need to raise this child to be a proud Ethiopian-American. You may criticize us and all AP's but unless you have a better idea of what to do with the 143 million orphans around the globe, please keep your backward opinions to yourself.

10 comments:

Anonymous said...

I loved your post! I also am an adoptive mother and hate the nasty comments! Your family is beautiful! God bless you all!

Nancy

Renee said...

AMEN! I always avoid reading the comments after any adoption article now, because they are often so full of hate, and I have a very thin skin. I'm sorry you are hurt :o(

Kristen said...

Amen! well said Mia!

Jenni said...

Way to put it! Glad you posted!

The Stephensons said...

Good for you for standing up for your baby! What a great post.

A fellow mother of an Ethiopian sweetheart,
Lynn

Mama Andrea said...

LOVE this post! Sorry you're having a rough time with whomever but that's why God chose you to advocate for this child and no one else. Set 'em straight!

Paula said...

Your baby IS beautiful! I have two of Ethiopia's beautiful children, too... Thanks for speaking out.

Ms. Very Stupid said...

I came across this post after searching for more information on Rowan's adoptive family. I just have to say kudos to you! I haven't read the original post which prompted this one, but I just want to tell you how thankful I am that there are people wonderful enough to open their hearts and minds to adoption. It isn't easy. You have offered this beautiful little boy a world of love that he may not have known had his life continued on the course it was on. Who cares if you aren't black, or Ethiopian or perfect. If children waited on perfect parents no children would ever be born (LOL - I say this because I am a mother.....of a teenager (wheeew!!)). People who adopt are no different than people who physically have kids themselves - not perfect and not infallible. Sometimes we both get things wrong, but our lives are not defined by the times we get it wrong - they are defined by the good things we strive to do for others. I'm black - not that it matters - and I just want you to know that there are people out there who applaud you, support you and believe in what you did as the answer to the tremendous problem of unwanted children - both in the US and abroad. I am one of those people. Thank you for caring. Thank you for opening your heart and thank you for taking the time to invest in someone you didn't physically give birth to. People like you are amazing. Never, ever let anyone tell you anything different.

Tim, Emily and Percy said...

Hello! Forgive my intruding, but my husband and I are researching adoption agencies for our next adoption and are looking into Hope Adoption Agency. Your blog was on their website so I thought I ought to send you a message and ask your thoughts on their agency. We'd really appreciate any tips, experiences or advice! Thank you so much!

Tim and Emily Browning
Washington, IL

Cristie said...

AMEN! From an adoptive Mommy ... and a woman passionate about orphan care and adoption. WELL SAID!